Where the Wild Things Aren't

Just wait till you see what Spike Jonze has done to “Where the Wild Things Are.”
On second thought, don’t.
Half of the pages of the beloved children’s book were illustrations of the “wild rumpus” that ensued once the main character, Max, met the wild things and became their king. Somehow, Jonze found a way to turn the sententious children’s story into a 101 minute feature film.
There is no doubt the scenery and the puppetry were amazing. The Wild Things looked exactly the way we all remember them from Maurice Sendak’s cross-haired illustrations. The scenery was gorgeous and beautifully filmed, but it looked more like my back yard than the colorful jungle fantasy world that Sendak created. And the desert? Don’t get me started.
Half-way through the film, I desperately wanted to quote young Max by shouting, “NOW STOP!” I wish I could have borrowed his sadness shield.
Then I got it: This is one of those read between the lines moments. Well, there’s no “between the lines” here. There is literally one line per page, if that. The simplicity of the book is what made it a classic. Did Sendak want us to read between the lines?
The story is about a boy who is sent to his room (without supper!) for being a jerk to his mother. While in his room, his fury excites his imagination, and from the posts of his bed grow ancient and exotic trees. He sails away to where the wild things are, convinces them not to eat him and becomes their king. He then grows tired and hungry, and returns to his bedroom, where there was a hot bowl of soup waiting for him. The moral of the story is clear enough: we get mad and we get scared and sometimes we want to escape, but no matter what we do, our moms still love us. Fantastic!
But the film incorporates all forms and fashions of fear, confusion and fury: parents dating, and aversion to frozen vegetables, sibling rivalry, arms being ripped off, THE SUN EXPLODING!
Did I read a different book?
The movie makes sure you are on Max’s side from the beginning, when he is hurt in a snowball fight. Should we be on Team Max? Hell no. He’s jealous, controlling, disrespectful and rude. There is nothing about this movie character that we should like. Even in the book, after Max lies to the wild things, he still leaves them without a king the moment he gets hungry! What a little punk! I put Max in the category of the O’Doyles in Billy Madison or maybe Scut Farkas in A Christmas Story, because even when these bullies are getting theirs, you don’t feel bad for them because they are such ass holes.
The only character I feel bad for is Max’s mother, because she has to deal with that mess of a child. But wait-- is it her fault? Is Jonze making a parenting message here?!
Oh and don’t forget about the wild things, who have deal with the disaster that Max made of their little island and their little pack.
It’s clear that he’s trying to make some sort of message, we just have no idea what it is.
I would never make a child sit through this film, because I imagine they would be terrified. And bored. To those who say it’s not a children’s movie, I say get real.
I give the costumes and computer graphics five big stars. As for the content, well, I’m not sure I found any that made sense. The next time some quirky director is looking to make an abomination (I mean, a message) of a film, we can only hope that they stay away from the classics.

17 again...

Ah, to be 17 again.
Wait. Let me rephrase that. Thank God I’m not 17 anymore.
For some reason, when you say the word seventeen, people smile. What about being 17 was pleasant? Most 17 year-olds spend their days cleaning out the bagel slicer at their crappy job, putting air in the tires of their crappy car, paying for their lunch in dimes (it took 12 of them for a Jumbo Jack), staring at their bodies in the mirror thinking it looks disgusting, when usually the most disgusting thing in the reflection is their facial expression.
17 year-olds spend their nights unraveling the gossip of the day—comparing different versions of the same story, hoping to God that no one finds out that their shoes came from Payless or that their parents can’t afford to send them on the class trip.
They stare at boys. All. Day. Long.
17 is an age of constant uneasiness. Always wondering what people are thinking about you. Assuming it must be bad. Spending $40 on a T-shirt from Abercrombie because that’s what the cool girl wears.
What the hell was wrong with us? Always trying to blend in and stay out of everyone’s way.
It is when I think about all of the nasty things that happen in high school that I am reminded of those other things. You know, the things you got in big trouble for. Despite how awkward or unpopular you are, everyone seems to find a group of a few friends to get into trouble with. Your parents don’t even notice anymore when they come in the house without knocking or open the fridge and help themselves. It is these people that you will never, ever forget because they were the ones that you were forced to pass the time with.
When you are seventeen, you aren’t allowed out on school nights, but when you figured out that the window right above the stairs to the deck doesn’t have an alarm, you made it count. These were the nights that you smoked your first cigarette, got that ridiculous speeding ticket… maybe made your way into the backseat of a car with that cute boy.
They aren’t nights that anyone is necessarily proud of, but being 17 sucks so bad that you have to find ways to have fun. This is the one time in life that doing bad things still somehow seems innocent.
It seems like the stars were brighter when I was 17. I have several memories where my friends and I were outside sitting in a circle, surrounding whatever item it was that we were not supposed to have (cigarettes, a case of beer, WEED!) and reveling in the glory of having it. The mental picture seems more like a movie set than someone’s rickety old tree house or the football field.
I remembering keeping Febreeze and mouthwash in my glove box because I really believed that it would mask the odor of whatever I had gotten into that night. I remember kissing a co-worker in the walk-in freezer at Panera Bread. I remember my girlfriends and me taking the football coach’s jeep during weightlifting class to go get Chic-Fil-A. I remember toilet papering our rival campus with my volleyball team.
I remember falling in love with Charleston on a speech and debate trip, where we snuck into an art show and sampled their fine selection of wine and cheese. Mostly just the wine.
I remember having 22 missed calls from home on prom night knowing I would be in trouble, but thinking it was worth it. I remember tipping cows (yes, we did that in Greenville) and all of us being hung-over on the way to Mr. Martin’s house the next morning to apologize. I remember laughing at the irony throughout our youth group’s Christmas play when my best friend Amanda was cast as the Virgin Mary.
Ok, so 17 had its ups and downs. It’s an odd age. You’re taken a little more seriously than when you were 16, but you still can’t buy cigarettes or porn. You have a crappy job, but your coworkers are usually your friends. You really don’t have any responsibilities other than to show up at school. Yes, there are always bitches at school. Yes, sometimes your parents suck, and at 17 you can’t do a damn thing about it. But at 17, there was no such thing as rent or utilities or credit cards or student loans.
What a simpler time?! Now, I don’t care what the girls around me are wearing. I know that gossip is worthless. I don’t care quite as much about looking cute for the boys. I can go out and come home whenever I want, if I even want to.
I am, however, 22. I have a real job and real responsibilities. I have a relationship that I am proud of. I am now a grown-up. I can’t kiss random boys in the freezer anymore. I can’t stay out playing with my friends till sunrise when I know I have appointments in the morning. I can’t get crazy speeding tickets because I pay for my insurance now.
Of course, I don’t want to do some of these things anymore. Now that I’m 5 long years wiser, I know a few things about conduct and restraint. But I am glad that God gave us sort of a grace period—a time to dip our toes into the pool of adult things without real consequence. We all thought we were just passing the time till we could get out of town and do something great. But we were learning. We were experiencing and experimenting. We were doing things that are really only acceptable if done by mindless, innocent 17 year-olds and thank God we did them.
Would I ever want to be 17 again? HELL NO. Being awkward, boy-crazy, and bad-mouthed were not things that occurred in my imagination. I am, however, glad that I took advantage of this little window of time where all we wanted to do was wave good-bye to childhood and let the good, grown-up times roll.

These are a few of my favorite things...

One of my favorite sensations happens not during sex, but the next day. It is when I'm daydreaming on a swing at work, or when I'm reaching for laundry detergent at the grocery store.
It is that moment, in the middle of a mundane, likely sex-free day when I get a quick flashback from the night before. Like a moment from the previews of a movie: the music grows intense and images from the film appear on the screen. Nothing is cohesive, just images of the frightening battle, the passionate kiss, the lady screaming "NOOOOOOOOOO!" at whomever she screams to.
Only when this happens, you imagine the strap of your dress sliding off of your sunburnt shoulder and then immediately think-"That was fucking hot," and then "Oh, Gain is cheaper than Tide today!"
You don't have to play out the whole sex scene in your mind- one flashback is enough to give you butterflies in your stomach ALL DAY.

I love it.

A bit of advice...

Heed my words: If you are in a committed relationship, and your other half decides to start working out- there is trouble brewing. If your significant other suggests that the two of you join a gym together, this is healthy and could even be beneficial to your relationship- its good to do things together...

HOWEVER,

If your significant other decides to start working out without you- leave before you are left. By the time your partner decides to start working out (WITHOUT YOU!), you already know how their body looks and have probably accepted their flaws- maybe even grown to love them, so why would they try to start looking good now? It could mean several things: 1) the sight of your unsightly body motivates them to get in shape, or 2) << and the most likely>> they are fixin' to be on the prowl and want to look HOT.

DISCLAIMER: This theory came from a drunken conversation with two very intelligent gay guys who, I believe, know everything about everything that matters.

Likes and Dislikes, continued.

We like to talk about our dead relatives.

My family spent Mother's day searching our family's archives for my great-granddaddy Fuller's hand-written recipe for Coca Cola. I've never seen it, though it is said to be written on a slip of pharmacy paper and dated March of 1931.

To many people, this isn't really worth the trouble. To us, well, we're still looking. The same way people who claim to be related to William Wallace or George Washington stick to their accounts of, "My great great great great great uncle fought under Robert E. Lee, we're related because........."

Our ancestors are our claim to fame. By telling people that our family history spans more than a few decades, we affirm our own beliefs that we come from something greater than the cookie-cutter houses we grew up in.

Of course everyone's family goes back, way back. But knowing your family's history- having written records like in a Bible suggests that your family was worth recording.

Those old, crisp pictures with writing on the back- lead for sure, and in a script that cannot be replicated by those educated by pencils that were over one inch in diameter and the paper with the dashes in the middle of the lines- those are history. They have names written on them- Albertus, Estelle, Carrie Nell- that tell who you are and whose you are.

Maybe having a hand-written recipe for Coke isn't much. In our defense, a Georgia native who could read and write in the 1930s is quite impressive. Many people talk about the huge houses that their grandparents live in and the Cadillacs that sit in the driveway with 8 miles on the odometer. Others would reference the guy who sold his recipe for Dr. Pepper a few weeks ago for over $100,000. Whoever's side you take is irrelevant, because everyone in our family believes like hell that we will find that damn paper and *never sell it*.

My great-aunt Leesie lost her mind a while ago, and gave a silver tea service and a monogrammed walking stick belonging to Lyman Hall, signer of the Declaration of Independence and our ancestor on daddy's side- to the Salvation Army. The person who bought those for roughly $5 will never know that the monogram is that of the 12th governor of Georgia. They will never know that some of the only tangible history of our family now belongs to them.

Either way, we know it happened, and we love to name-drop (or product place? in reference to coke). Ancestry is definitely a southern LIKE.

A tasty quote.

All well-raised Southern girls know it's far easier to get forgiveness than permission.
-- Virginia Darmer

Graduation: embellished, abridged.

The women wear white dresses and carry six red long-stem roses. The men wear white summer tuxes and escort the women from a building that has survived war, natural disaster, and many a boistrous fête.

This is graduation at the College of Charleston. It usually falls on the Saturday before Mother’s day, just as the average temperature rises into the high 90’s and the humid, coastal air is scented with lovely things; salt water, simmering shrimp, and magnolias.

To fully understand our school, you must first understand Charleston. It is one of the oldest cities in the South, claiming famous natives such as Stephen Colbert, John Rutledge, and yes, Rhett Butler.

It is not uncommon to see brand-new Range Rovers driving on 300 year-old cobblestone alley-ways or to see handsome men in bow-ties with cigars. It isn’t uncommon to see women leaving church on Sunday, donning their most colorful Jackie O-inspired frock and a big hat. They remove their white gloves slowly, finger by delicate finger.

Though I am not a native of Charleston, I quickly learned the ways of our paradise by the sea.

Those who have visited our fair city know that there is something in the air down here-- something that makes you want to get into trouble. It could be the cool breeze that comes off the Ashley River, cooling the sweaty, toned bodies of the men at our cross-town rival, the Citadel. It could be the historic cobblestone alleys that seem as though they were put there by God to be a perfect place for a first kiss. It could be the blatant and pressing availability of alcohol.

Who knows.

The College of Charleston is tucked in the center of this haven of debauchery and style. The city shapes every one of our experiences. Many students at other schools enjoy chugging beer in a parking lot before football games. We sip mimosas on sailboats. Some students hang out on the “quad” between classes. We walk down one of the finest shopping districts in the South, passing thousand-dollar dresses and
thousand-dollar dogs to get to campus. Some college kids save money all year long to pack themselves into a Honda and road-trip to the beach. We walk there after class.

It is a different place, untouched by time and modern influence. It is without reservation that I say, our college experience is a little different from most.

When I first came to college I joined groups, sat with people I didn’t know, and attended parties with strangers. I quickly learned that to be “in the know,” you had to be friends with upper-classmen, so I was. But on graduation day, I was peeking through the windows of Randolph Hall at my friends, sitting on the Cistern, folding the programs over and over in their sweaty, nervous hands. They were leaving me.

I didn’t think about it until April. I had just been elected president of the Student Alumni Associates. I had planned an awesome semi-formal and gotten us one of the biggest houses on nearby Folly beach for three days during exams.

Brandon had two great job offers, Andrew was thinking about law school, Billy
proposed to Melissa. I loved experiencing these milestones with my friends, but in April, I realized that while I still loved the college social life, my friends would soon be turning down invitations to bars and going to bed at 10:30. On Thursdays when I got out of class early and wanted to have a day at the beach, they would all be at work. I spent most of graduation day in tears, watching my friends walk across
the stage into adulthood.

After the ceremony, we walked hand-in-hand to the Alumni Association’s champagne reception, where things got interesting. We walked down to the fountain behind the library, where we had spent so many hours wishing we were somewhere else. I dipped my toe into the water, which felt like a warm bath. Following a natural sequence of
events, Andrew pushed me in and I pulled him in with me. We had champagne bottles in one hand while the others motioned for our friends to come join us. And they did.

We shag-danced to the music that was carried on the wind from the Alumni house. Songs like “Sweet Carolina Girls,” and “I Love Beach Music” were the soundtrack of the night. We stayed in the fountain until we were out of champagne. A little longer. No one said it, but we knew we were safe in that fountain because we were together.

We finally crawled out and made our way back to the house. They wouldn’t let us back in because we were soaking wet, so we lay beneath a dogwood tree in the back, where we all passed out.

In the morning, we woke up hung-over, grass-stained, and still wet. We got in trouble with public safety and had to walk home in our somewhat see-through clothing from the night before.

We made it to the car, where we drove to our favorite haunt, the Waffle House. We sat in two booths, in our disgusting clothes while our favorite waitress Miss Patty took care of us.

“8 All-Star Specials, please.”

It was at the Waffle House, through a groggy and hazy mind, that I realized this was not the end. The days and nights that I spent with my best friends in college were reassurance that we might not always be together, but we would always have our memories. We would always have Charleston.

Beach Music. Champagne. Waffle House. Magnolias.

That was college for me, and for countless others who spent their undergraduate years under the oaks at the College of Charleston.

A quick note on being social.

Do not, I repeat, DO NOT be that girl.

In the grand scheme of things, it really is important to maintain an image of a sociable person. If you are invited to a gathering, the worst thing you could possibly do is sit in a corner and not say a word.
It doesn't matter what people are doing at the event, you should do it too. If it is something that you simply cannot take part in (hard drugs or orgies, for example), either relax and open your mind to it, or simply excuse yourself and leave. If it is something like playing a card game or having a conversation, take part in it.
By not taking part in the activity, not only are you making it obvious to everyone present that you are not comfortable, but you are making them uncomfortable too.

In case you are particularly socially awkward, here are a few tips that will ensure you never to become "that girl."

1. Read the newspaper everyday. Even if you only read the front page, you can bring up a topic that others will likely know about, which will lead to a decent conversation. News conversations are generally not ideal, but it could lead to other, better conversations.
2. Know the group dynamic. If you know that the people you are hanging out with hate your other friends, do not mention them. Try to find out who is dating whom, who hates whom, and who has fucked whom. It not only keeps you from saying things that will piss people off, it helps you know whats going on when people start gossiping. When they do, you must offer an opinion. Do not say, "Well I don't really know her." Nothing bonds people better than agreeing on something evil, like how fat someone got.
3. If people are drinking, drink. If you are not a drinker, you have no business being at that particular gathering. If people are not drinking, you should leave because that party sounds lame.
4. Do not criticize someone who is at the party. For example, do not say, "Maybe you should slow down, you've had 13 beers." The only time it is OK to do that is if you are joking with someone. Never tell someone to stop drinking if you are not really, really good friends with them. Also don't say anything negative about the gathering. Don't criticize the music, the food, or the crowd.

I found it necessary to vent on this particular subject. It's crazy to me that some people just don't know how to be fun. If you stick to these tips, people will not likely talk shit about you when you leave, and you will probably be invited to another party of theirs.

Heed my advice: Do not suck at parties.

Likes and Dislikes, Abridged Version

First, I would like to begin with a summary of what is true and what is not about southerners. We do love our sweet tea.
There is an art to sweet tea though. It can’t be too sweet and it can’t be too strong. The secret is to put cold water in a pot with two tea bags, bring the water to a boil, and then let the bags steep for five minutes. You then pour the mixture into a pitcher with one cup of Dixie sugar. Stir, and add water. If someone drinks a glass of your tea and then says, “As a matter of fact, I’ll just have a glass of water or a Coke if you’ve got it,” you have made an error.
Second, we do love our Coca Cola. People from North Carolina tend to prefer Pepsi, and are therefore not considered southerners.
The only good thing about Florida is Disney World. The Florida Gators are hated by the rest of the south, as are its tacky buildings and white-trash population.
Coke is the official soft drink of Disney World.
One of the biggest misconceptions of the South is that we are all Baptists. This is entirely untrue. We love too many earthly things in the south. Whether you grew up in a double-wide (in Florida) or in your family’s antebellum plantation home on the Santee River, there was something indulgent in your house. We love sex, good food, dirty jokes and strong cocktails.
A Sunday in a Baptist church is like one big reminder that each of our lavish habits is another brick in the sidewalk headed to hell. This is simply unsavory, especially since church, for many people, is about fashion, gossip, and brunch. That is why the South is heavily populated with Methodists and Presbyterians.
An account of a young southerner’s Saturday night often sounds a lot like a reading of the seven deadly sins. We are fans of what the church likes to call “joyous worship,” i.e. church that doesn’t make you feel bad about your transgressions, because we all know there will be a Bloody Mary in your hand within thirty minutes of the benediction- lets talk about what a forgiving and gracious God we have and get out of here in an hour.
Southern daddies take pride, perhaps above anything else, in their southern daughters. If they have pretty girls, fathers put pictures of them all over their offices, take their Girl Scout cookie order forms to work, and allow them to pick out whatever dress they’d like for the prom.
If they were not blessed with a pretty girl, they will put their daughter on every sports team available and make sure they get the best grades. This all comes down to marriage. The fathers of the pretty girls know their daughters will have no problem marrying well, and do not stress out about a C on a report card. Fathers of ugly girls worry that their daughters will have a harder time marrying well, and they have to make up for it elsewhere.
If you take a look in a high school parking lot, you will find that the nicer cars often belong to the uglier girls. This is their fathers’ doing. The fathers of pretty girls know that their daughters are attractive and confident enough to be able to drive an uncool car and still be popular. The ugly girls’ dads feel the need to compensate- they don’t want their girl to be the ugly girl and drive the beater car.
Once graduation comes around, the pretty girl’s father will often go into debt to make sure that his pretty girl has everything she needs for college, including a nice new car. This leaves the ugly girl with nothing but a full-ride softball scholarship, and a car that was cool four years ago. The ugly girl will see the pretty girl on campus in her new red jeep, blonde hair flowing in the wind and surrounded by sorority sisters, her hot fraternity boyfriend and cooler of beer in tow.
It seems vain and dreadfully archaic, but this is how we do things in the South- slowly and at our leisure. We like to be surrounded by lovely things- be that priceless antiques or pictures of our children. Though our states are some of the oldest in the country, you will not find another place in America that does things like we do in the South.

“Gossip is like hard currency in this town. Folks are just paying their bills.”

Okay, this blog was originally for a public relations class, and I have not logged on since 2007. Here's my situation: I hate work. I don't want to work at a desk, I don't want to work in an office. My dream job would be to write for a living, because its what I'm good at. It comes naturally to me because I love telling good stories.

Another important thing to understand-- I'm the queen of misfortune/fortune. That doesn't make much sense to most people until you hear a few of my stories. Strange, and I do mean strange things happen to me on a daily basis. My life is pretty much a story of irony, because I am extremely unlucky when it comes to things like love and money. I do have a talent for being at the right place at the right time and meeting fantastic people who change my life for the better every day, and in that sense, I am incredibly fortunate.

Basically, what I am doing with this blog is putting up my stories for everyone to see. Most of them are true, but some will be fiction. Some of these stories are racy, some are breathtakingly romantic, and many are sad. I hope that you have a good time reading them and deciding whether you think they are true or not; I know I will have a good time writing them, and I know damn well I've had a great time living them.

So here's a little background. I live in beautiful Charleston, South Carolina-- a place that is literally frozen in time. My house is on one of the most sought-after streets in town and I see a lot of cool things from my patio. I am a student at the College of Charleston and have one of the tightest-knit groups of friends imaginable. Maybe if you've never been to Charleston, you won't understand. But those of you who have visited our fair city know that there is something in the air down here-- something that makes you want to get into trouble. It could be the cool breeze that comes off the ocean. It could be the historic cobblestone alleys that seem as though they were put there by God to be a sexy place for a first kiss. It could be the blatant and pressing availability of alcohol. Who knows. But there is no denying that Charleston is the ideal backdrop for any story... so here is where we'll begin...

"If I said I was madly in love with you you'd know I was lying." -Scarlet O'Hara